I have had this thought on my mind quite a bit lately, and my need to write it out was solidified this morning by my roommate mentioning that she thinks she would really like to cut her hair into a pixie cut, but that she doesn’t think it would look good on her. Plus, she said, rumor has it that men like long hair. Since she’s hoping to date people and such, she wants to keep her hair long because that’s what men like.
I want to address both of these issues. Let me start by saying that this year and a half with short hair has provided me with the most fun I have ever (yes, ever) had with my hair. My short hair helps me feel fun and spunky, and it is exciting for me to be adventurous with my hair, which is something I’d never really done before I chopped my hair off.
Issue #1: “I would, but I don’t think it would look good on me.”
I think this statement is a lie. The “I would” part, at least. I am of the belief that every woman has the potential to look absolutely great with short hair. It’s not what your hair looks like: it’s how you wear it. If you are confident with your hairstyle, you will look good. People often tell me they think their face shape wouldn’t be compatible with short hair. To that, I say, look at this webpage: Pixie Cuts for Every Face Shape. I don’t know these women personally, but they all look great with short hair. If you could see their confidence in person, too, would they not look absolutely stunning? Nothing is preventing you from chopping off your hair except your own fear of it. You will look good if you decide to look good.
Issue #2: “Men don’t like women with short hair.”
To this, I say, men who don’t like you with short hair are not worth dating. If you want to have short hair, anyone worth dating will accept you with short hair. And the best of the bunch will maybe even think you look better with short hair. Your hair is an expression of you. Even if you have a fairly standard haircut, the way you put it up in a ponytail or straighten it or let it airdry or whatever — all of that is a form of you expressing yourself. And if the way you want to express yourself is through short hair, men dang well better like it! Because it’s not about the hair. It’s about you. And if what you want to do is have short hair, then don’t let preconceived notions of what men do or don’t like stop you!
If you are one of those men who is prejudiced against women with short hair, STOP IT. A hairstyle is merely an expression of oneself. It’s like getting dressed. You get haircuts too, men. And your haircuts are not like those of other men. Why should women be inhibited by these socially constructed norms? Women don’t have to have long hair and men don’t have to have short hair. Don’t pressure women to conform to these standards just because you imagine she would look “better” with long hair. That seems like a pretty narrow view to me. If a woman is confident, she will look good. You should not try to dictate whether she has short or long hair.
To the women reading this: GO FOR IT! The way you style your hair can be a fun way to express yourself. It doesn’t have to be short or long or in between in order to be self-expression. It’s whatever you want it to be. And as long as it is the way you want it, you will look fantastic.
And, as a caveat, someone wise once told me this: Hair is a good thing to change because if you end up not liking it, you can just change it again.
Clarification: I’m not trying to advocate for everyone to chop their hair off. It is still definitely up to you and your preferences. And I know I’m not any sort of expert on short hair. All I’m trying to say is that short hair’s not as scary as it sounds. If you want to cut your hair, go for it. If you don’t, don’t.